Constant Family Conflicts: How Bazi Astrology Views the Origins of Relationships with Relatives

Some family conflicts are hard to pinpoint where they start, and things just don't go well. You quarrel with your parents after only a few words, there is always a gap with your siblings, or no matter how hard you try, the home is never really peaceful.

In the study of fate, there is a complete 'six relatives' analysis system that helps you fundamentally understand the underlying logic of these relationships.

What are the six relatives in the Eight Characters

In the Eight Characters, the Ten Gods correspond to different family member relationships:

• Seal Star (Proper Seal, Partial Seal): represents mother, elder, or noble person
• Wealth Star (Direct Wealth, Indirect Wealth): In a man's life, it represents the father (indirect wealth) and wife (direct wealth)
• Official Killings (Direct Officer, Seven Killings): A woman's fate represents her husband, and a man's fate represents his children
• Friends and Rivals (Peer, Rob Wealth): represents siblings and peer competition
• Food and Hurting (Food God, Hurting Officer): Represents children; in a woman's life, it also reflects expression and talent

Astrological Roots of Common Family Conflicts

Tense relationship with parents

If the Star of Seal (Moon/ mother) or the Wealth Star, particularly Partial Wealth (Father), is confronted, overcome, or positioned in void in the destiny chart, it often indicates an inherent tension in the relationship with the corresponding parent. For example:

• The Moon star is in opposition or enters the tomb: estranged relationship with the mother, difficult communication, hard to feel maternal love and support
• Unexpected wealth is restrained: There is conflict in the relationship with your father, and your father's influence on you may be negative.

Conflicts between siblings

When Bi Jie (sibling star) is overly strong and simultaneously restrains wealth, competition for family resources becomes obvious; or if Bi Jie is positioned in punishment, relationships between siblings are tense and friction is likely to arise.

The family is generally not harmonious

In the life chart, when many relative stars are subject to clashes and punishments, the family system's own energy is chaotic, and the living environment is prone to turbulence. In such a situation, leaving the original family to live independently is often a way to improve one's fortune.

At which stage are family conflicts particularly intense?

The following years are likely to trigger family relationship crises:

• Annual clash with the day branch (spouse palace): Fluctuations occur in the partner relationship within marriage and family
• Annual clash with the monthly branch (Parents' Palace/Siblings' Palace): Conflicts with parents or siblings intensify
• The annual Seven Killings is strong: authority conflicts in the family intensify, and the tension between control and resistance increases.

How to resolve family conflicts

Astrological advice is not meant to tell you to 'accept your fate,' but to offer a different perspective:

• After understanding the astrological roots of the conflict, lower your expectations for this relationship and reduce the chances of head-on clashes.
• During a year when conflicts clash, avoid making major decisions in family relationships (such as dividing the estate or cutting ties); wait until the year passes to reassess.
• If living independently can improve the situation, fate supports such a choice—physical distance is sometimes more effective than any communication skills.
• By comparing birth charts, understand the individual destiny characteristics of family members and find more suitable ways to get along.